A teaching distinguishing unattainable perfection, an endless comparison to an imaginary final state, from ‘amazing,’ a here-and-now assessment against pre-set criteria, arguing we should pursue defined, attainable excellence rather than perfectionism.
A teaching drawing a sharp line between connection, being fully present to another’s truth without needing their presence or approval, and attachment, which needs presence and leads to pain, arguing complete connection can even transcend death.
The foundational teaching defining Purna Asatti, or complete connection: connecting fully to self, others, and reality across every aspect of being, mapped to the chakras, and reframing tantra as enlightenment through connection rather than sexuality alone.
A chakra-by-chakra guide to building complete connection with a romantic partner, moving from trust and grounding at the root through sexuality, individuality, love, truth, and intuition to shared transcendence at the crown.
A reflective journal entry recording insights from morning meditation, exploring the paradox that we receive what we want by releasing desire for it, and allowing infinite energy, joy, and love to flow through us with gratitude.
An essay responding to Dr. Mariano Sigman’s semantic-analysis research on when human introspection emerged, arguing that the capacity for inner reflection long predated the writings of roughly 500-400 BC and that introspection remains a deliberate choice.
A reflective essay naming ‘spiritual fatigue,’ the exhaustion that often follows intense self-development work, and arguing for balancing periods of deep examination with simply living, while staying guarded against relapse into self-sabotage.
A short essay on releasing worry about one’s children, recognizing that we cannot know another person’s path or future, and that accepting our not-knowing, offering support, and focusing on our own life serves everyone better.
An introductory roadmap to self-development presenting the author’s model of universal stages of human growth, synthesized from Kegan, Fowler, and others, framed as the guide she wished she had when her own journey began at thirty-one.
A reflective essay on cultivating boredom, arguing that unstructured, phone-free quiet time creates the mental space for creativity, big questions, and self-understanding that constant digital stimulation crowds out.
A reflective essay on holding joy while others suffer, drawing on Buddhist and Hindu perspectives to argue that suffering alongside others helps no one, and that embodying peace and joy is what truly lifts them.
A short essay examining worry as a habitual, even addictive, negative emotion, distinguishing worry from stress, questioning what payoff it provides, and inviting the reader to notice the mind’s stories and return to the present.
A guidance essay on releasing anxiety over grown children, arguing that worrying about their choices is futile once they are adults, and advising disciplined self-focus, selective responsiveness, and accepting a child’s right to walk their own path.
A reflective essay using the discarded-then-enshrined bust of Nefertiti as a metaphor for the human cycle of being exalted, cast aside, and remembered, urging readers to keep treasuring themselves through every fleeting turn.
A personal account of managing recurring depression and anxiety without medication by recognizing the darkness, accepting it with compassion rather than fighting it, and restoring mental resilience through habits like sleep, sun, exercise, solitude, and reduced media.
An essay distinguishing growth from suffering, arguing that real transformation comes from freely chosen challenges that intimidate and require facing a fear or building a skill, rather than from pain that is imposed without consent.
A contemplative essay on the balance between oneness and aloneness, framing separateness as a necessary phase of the developmental journey that prepares the inner work leading to later stages of connection and unity.
Practical advice on achieving large or seemingly impossible goals by preempting them with tiny daily actions, focusing on the journey rather than the destination, and prioritizing consistent action over endless planning.
An essay on the neuroscience of reading people, drawing on research that a tuned-in listener or reader mirrors the brain patterns of a speaker or writer, and concluding that voice and text transmit a person’s state of mind.
A personal essay on how reducing commitments, possessions, and relationships frees up attention, which in turn enables focused intention and creative flow, and on trusting a let-go, unscheduled approach to balancing writing, music, art, and language.
A brief method for focusing effort in difficult moments by asking what one needs to BE rather than what one needs to do, letting the desired way of being reveal the concrete actions to take.
An essay challenging the claim that willpower cannot be willed, citing Libet’s experiments and arguing that the will is a trainable muscle, with graduated exercises from the marshmallow test to harder tests of self-discipline.
A candid guide to difficult family relationships, covering when to walk away from abusive or harmful relatives, how to exit gracefully by fading out, and when and how to reconnect once both parties have genuinely evolved.
A large curated collection of self-reflection questions covering feelings, values, purpose, fears, habits, relationships and self-talk, offered as prompts for self-development and life integration and meant to be worked through only a few at a time.
A short observation on flat, smooth sand at Half Moon Bay whose color variation creates the illusion of ridges, captured by the author as a reminder that what we see is not always reality.