The following is a list of great questions that I have collected over the years…. they are a great way to help focus your mind on self-development and life integration. Give them a go! But just a few at a time….. they can be overwhelming!
When was the last time you….
felt safe?
fest at peace?
felt alive?
felt purposeful?
said something nice to yourself?
said something critical to yourself?
learned something new about yourself?
learned something new about the world?
did something for yourself?
did something for someone else?
Are you on a path towards…
a better you?
a life that makes you feel ________ ?
What do you want? (people, places, things, experiences, feelings, opportunities, etc)
Why do you want this?
What is the underlying emotion behind your reasons?
What kind of person do you want to be…
physically?
mentally?
emotionally?
spiritually?
If this were your last day/week/month/year/5 years/etc, how would you spend it?
What 20% of the people/places/things/activities cause 80% of your joy/peace/frustration/sadness/etc?
If you could design your perfect day-to-day life, what would it look like? (after the beach and the travel wears off)
What would you do differently if you did not care what people thought?
Look back over your past major decisions… what drove them? What emotion was at the heart of it? How did they turn out?
How can you be a better friend to yourself?
If you were your own best friend, what frank conversation would you have with yourself?
How do you speak to yourself?
What kind of friend do you need to be for yourself? (kind, blunt, frank, comforting, etc)
What advice would you give your younger self? Are you following that now?
What advice would your older self give you right now?
What can you do today that your future self will thank you for? Or to make it easier on your future self? To make your future self say, “I am so glad that I….”
What stresses you out or makes you uncomfortable? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?
What do you keep putting off? Why?
What are your afraid of? Why? How can you confront that fear?
If you did ONE thing today to better yourself or your life, or to move towards your heart’s calling, what would it be? (pick something that takes 15min to 1 hr to do)
Who or what is standing in your way?
What limiting beliefs do you have from childhood and later?
What freeing beliefs do you ache that you can nurture?
What freeing beliefs do you need to program into your mind?
Who inspires you and why?
What are you holding on to that you need to let go of?
Who do you need to forgive? Can you see their humanity and pain hiding within them? Can you see their truth?
How can you be authentically you in a way that brings real value to those around you?
What habits do you need to break?
What habits do you need to start?
What small step can you make towards that?
What aspects of you life are out of line with who you really are?
Who are you really?
What are your needs? (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, etc)
What are your ideologies? (religious, political, social, moral, etc – your values or principles or beliefs)
What core aspects of your personality have NEVER changed since you were very small?
What has your gut been telling you?
Are you listening?
What have you been lying to yourself about?
What is the truth? (painful or otherwise)
Who can you trust to talk to about this?
How do you feel when you are alone?
What reveals your joy?
If you would live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
What is your purpose?
What are you uniquely good at?
What did you want to be when you were 5, 15, 25, 35, ….? Why?
What do your friends say is the reason they like to have you around? How do you make them FEEL?
What have you always done, when no one is watching, without being paid, what is it that you MUST do?
How can you help others?
What then is your mission here in this life?
What achievements are you most proud of?
What do you wish you had the nerve to do?
What are you grateful for?
What is important to you right now?
Break down how you are spending your time… does your day reflect these priorities?
How do you spend your hours?
Is that getting you where you want to be?
How much of your day do you spend going over the past or worrying about the future? (note: planning and taking action toward the future is not worrying.)
What life rules or philosophy could you write down to guide yourself to have better perspective and/or make better decisions?
Who can mentor you?
Where can you find mentors? (career, spiritual, personal, etc)
What worries you most about the future?
How can you accept, prepare for and/or mitigate that?
Can you make it irrelevant?
To what extent have you actually controlled the course of your life to to today?
What do you wish you had done differently?
What were your biggest mistakes?
How can you avoid making those mistakes again?
What do you need to do now to admit to and resolve the mistakes that are still affecting your life?
Can you return to a point when you were truly yourself on your own path and pick up where you left off?
What experiences shaped you (good and bad)?
Can you thank them for shaping you and see that these experiences are not you?
What needs do others have?
Can you help?
How would it feel to be them?
How would it feel to help?
Do you see how others might grow up with or develop a different ideology from you?
Say your name to yourself, in your head… who said that? Who heard that? How can you speak without speaking and hear what makes no sound?
If you are not this body… what are you?
If you are not this mind… what are you?
What if you did the opposite… the opposite of what others have done? The opposite of what everyone thinks is the normal way or the right way?
Who are you trying to be like? Why is it not you? What would you do differently or the same to be more like YOU?
What do you believe that most people would think is crazy?
What is the difference between surviving, existing, and living?
What would you most like to change about the world?
What does it mean to be human?
If you look into the heart of your enemy… what would you find? How did it get there?
Which of society’s rules are wrong?
What is “peace” to you?
What is comforting to you?
[Vishen Lakhiani]
1 – What experiences do you want to have?
2 – How do you have to grow to have those experiences? (skills, etc)
3 – How can I give back to the world when I am that person?
What is your greatest challenge?
What are you settling for? (there is a difference between accepting your current reality and settling)
What do you have trouble seeing clearly in your mind?
What 3-5 questions do you wish you had the answers to?
Have you ever made mistakes? What are you ashamed of? Have you hurt people in the past? Can you forgive your humanity?
Where is your money going?
Where should it be going?
What could you do if you had no debt payments?
Looking back, how far have you come?
How have you sabotaged yourself?
Do you have the self control to stop?
What can you do to support yourself in stopping these behaviors?
What is your “tell” that you are swimming in your baggage? (crying, yelling, etc)
What story can you tell that includes, “… and something in me said…” and it changed your life or saved it? Who was speaking to you?
