Few things are more fulfilling than romantic love. So how can we make it even better? Cultivating a complete connection with your partner, I have found, is a gateway to more love, more romance, more play, more fun, more and better sex, and more emotional intimacy. More than that, it is a mechanism to seeing and experiencing the humanity of each other, leading ultimately to both of you evolving further along the Cycle of Human Development, together, accelerating each other’s efforts. To cultivate complete connection, I recommend working in order from the ground up to make sure you have a solid foundation and are not missing anything…
ROOT
Connect with your partner through trust, safety and grounding.
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Build trust
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Build safety (including bodily autonomy)
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Ground each other
SACRAL
Connect with your partner through sexuality, the infinite divine, and the infinite energy
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Connect through sexuality
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Experiment, and be honest
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Feel the infinite silence and energy inside each other, allow it to rise and build
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Give of your energy to each other
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Give of this infinite peace to each other
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Note: it helps to be at peace when you come to bed so that you can be a place of peace for each other.
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SOLAR PLEXUS
Connect with your partner’s independent will, power, individuality, uniqueness and strength of self.
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Celebrate their uniqueness and quirks
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Encourage their strength of self
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Revel in their journey, how they enjoy their interests. Take the time to listen without expectation of response.
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Be careful of arrogance and power trips centered in insecurities.
HEART
Connect with your partner through love and compassion for self and each other.
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Eye gazing, snuggling, hugs, hand holding
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Compassion for current challenges – compassion is seeing their humanity as an aspect of yourself, not trying to solve their problems for them, unless they specifically ask for your help or ideas.
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Play, flirt, give each other time, attention and priority.
THROAT
Connect with your partner’s personal truth and expression.
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Create an environment between you where speaking your truth is rewarded – praised and encourages, never judged but held in love and compassion.
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Play Truth Or Truth – ask each other questions in a private place. No judging. See their answers as an aspect of yourself.
THIRD EYE
Connect to your partner’s higher perception, intuition, and inspiration.
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Encourage your partner’s development of perception and intuition (if that is their goal)
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See your partner’s divine nature and purpose. See them as an angel, god or goddess. See the light inside that radiates through them.
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Create a shared vision of a future that excites you both and has space for you both to grow, explore interests, and fulfill your purposes in joint support.
CROWN
Connect to your partner’s wisdom, and to your shared oneness and transcendence.
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Talk about how you think the world works and how the divine works.
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Feel at one with each other. See how you are the same. Feel what it is like to be them, feeling what it is like to be you.
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Experience shared transcendence by opening to each other and connecting completely along all of these aspects that you have now developed.
