A chakra-by-chakra guide to building complete connection with a romantic partner, moving from trust and grounding at the root through sexuality, individuality, love, truth, and intuition to shared transcendence at the crown.
An essay on self-sabotage, exploring why humans carry both a drive for growth and an inner voice pulling toward mediocrity, weighing evolutionary and psychological explanations and concluding that whichever tendency we feed grows stronger.
A reflective essay naming ‘spiritual fatigue,’ the exhaustion that often follows intense self-development work, and arguing for balancing periods of deep examination with simply living, while staying guarded against relapse into self-sabotage.
A short essay on releasing worry about one’s children, recognizing that we cannot know another person’s path or future, and that accepting our not-knowing, offering support, and focusing on our own life serves everyone better.
An introductory roadmap to self-development presenting the author’s model of universal stages of human growth, synthesized from Kegan, Fowler, and others, framed as the guide she wished she had when her own journey began at thirty-one.
A practical essay on distinguishing an impulse you will later regret from a genuine soul ‘compelling,’ offering rules of thumb, especially that anything rushed or involving spending money is usually impulse rather than intuitive guidance.
A reflective essay on cultivating boredom, arguing that unstructured, phone-free quiet time creates the mental space for creativity, big questions, and self-understanding that constant digital stimulation crowds out.
A reflective essay on holding joy while others suffer, drawing on Buddhist and Hindu perspectives to argue that suffering alongside others helps no one, and that embodying peace and joy is what truly lifts them.
A short essay examining worry as a habitual, even addictive, negative emotion, distinguishing worry from stress, questioning what payoff it provides, and inviting the reader to notice the mind’s stories and return to the present.
A guidance essay on releasing anxiety over grown children, arguing that worrying about their choices is futile once they are adults, and advising disciplined self-focus, selective responsiveness, and accepting a child’s right to walk their own path.
A personal account of managing recurring depression and anxiety without medication by recognizing the darkness, accepting it with compassion rather than fighting it, and restoring mental resilience through habits like sleep, sun, exercise, solitude, and reduced media.
A short reflection on how each person has a habitual favorite negative emotion, whether grief, worry, aloneness, or annoyance, and a suggestion that naming one’s default misery and cultivating connection to self can make it dissipate.
An essay distinguishing growth from suffering, arguing that real transformation comes from freely chosen challenges that intimidate and require facing a fear or building a skill, rather than from pain that is imposed without consent.
A contemplative essay on the balance between oneness and aloneness, framing separateness as a necessary phase of the developmental journey that prepares the inner work leading to later stages of connection and unity.
A real-time journal entry written while the author’s aunt was dying in hospice and her son underwent brain surgery, exploring grief, separateness, transcendence, and the spiritual idea of dissolving the self to rejoin oneness.
An essay arguing that people can only love others to the degree they love themselves, explaining why loved ones’ actions may fall short of their claims, and advising readers to assess others’ self-love and examine their own.
A personal essay on how reducing commitments, possessions, and relationships frees up attention, which in turn enables focused intention and creative flow, and on trusting a let-go, unscheduled approach to balancing writing, music, art, and language.
A brief method for focusing effort in difficult moments by asking what one needs to BE rather than what one needs to do, letting the desired way of being reveal the concrete actions to take.
An essay challenging the claim that willpower cannot be willed, citing Libet’s experiments and arguing that the will is a trainable muscle, with graduated exercises from the marshmallow test to harder tests of self-discipline.
A candid guide to difficult family relationships, covering when to walk away from abusive or harmful relatives, how to exit gracefully by fading out, and when and how to reconnect once both parties have genuinely evolved.
A reflective piece on how the body stores trauma and how surgery — even minor procedures — can reawaken buried grief and past trauma, drawing on the author’s own experience and the idea that healing involves both body and mind.
A large curated collection of self-reflection questions covering feelings, values, purpose, fears, habits, relationships and self-talk, offered as prompts for self-development and life integration and meant to be worked through only a few at a time.
A philosophical essay tracing how our sense of self evolves through stages of ideology toward ‘there is no self,’ warning against becoming trapped in identifying with our beliefs, and questioning why we look to spiritual and religious ideologies to tell us how to live.
An exploration of whether particular life challenges map to specific stages of the author’s development model, finding that some stages attract characteristic struggles while other challenges can strike anytime and pull a person back into earlier stages.
A practical guide offering several methods for discovering your unique purpose or mission — including free-flow writing, the four-way intersections exercise, skills assessments, and quiet meditative listening — with the reminder that your purpose will not resemble anyone else’s.