Welcome. This meditation supports the Stage Four task of recognizing and removing negative patterns. This task includes recognizing the negative pattern to begin with, understanding the root cause, and making a plan to stop or replace the damaging pattern. The most challenging part of this task is digging for the root cause of why you do what you do. This meditation will support that process of digging deeper for the real cause.
Posture
Take a moment to get comfortable. You can sit or stand or lay down. It’s doesn’t matter. You can close your eyes or keep them open. Do what works for you.
Presence
Take a slow deep breath. Let it out like a sigh of relief. Be at peace. You are here now. Take another slow deep breath, and this time, send it out slowly, consciously, with purpose, all the way. Be at peace. You are here now. Pause and repeat these breaths until you feel relaxed and at peace.
For this journey, choose a negative pattern that you find yourself repeating. What pattern do you want to stop. Think if it for a moment. Detail to yourself how this pattern hurts you, and the fact that you want it to stop.
Journey
We begin. We are creatures of pattern. This too is human. Imagine sitting next to yourself like an old friend. Offer love and forgiveness to yourself. It’s more than OK, it is only human. In this space, as your friend, you do not judge. So we can explore honestly, from a short distance. You are here now. Think of the pattern you want to remove. Why do you do this? Take a moment to dig for the reason. How does it make you feel when this pattern happens? Sad? Lesser? Unworthy? In repeating this pattern, you are choosing to feel that way. Why? Take a moment and seek the answer. Dig deep for the honest truth.
Why do you deserve to suffer?
No one deserves to suffer. We are not here on this earth to suffer. As your friend, can you offer forgiveness to yourself? Can you imagine holding yourself in love and caring. Do this now.
Can you leave the past behind? Patterns and all? Today is a new day. Make a vow with yourself to leave the past in the past and move forward from today.
Affirm to yourself as your own guardian: I love you. You deserve to be happy. I will not let this happen again. Take a moment to sit with yourself in love and compassion. Two old friends moving forward together.
What new rules can you put in place to help break this pattern? Can you occupy yourself with a different pattern? A healthy pattern? A self-care pattern? What would that look like?
Return
When you are ready, bring your awareness back to your surroundings. Notice how you feel. Take this feeling with you and return to it anytime you like. It is a feeling of empowerment. You are in charge of yourself. You decide what you will spend your time doing, and what is not right for you. As you move forward, put your new rules into practice. Begin the self-care pattern that you chose and hold it sacred. We are replacing a negative habit with a positive one. Each day, hold yourself in love like an old friend to remind yourself that you deserve good things. Because you do.
