Sometimes I have a day where I feel limited. Like limiting beliefs have a hold on me. I realized the other day that I was surprised to hear someone say that I am a good person who is focused on service to others. I thought I was selfish. Why? Because some important family members told me so when I was about eighteen. And at eighteen, I don’t doubt that I was, but the label stuck permanently. I realized that a particular close family member had never said anything nice to me that was not then quickly accompanied by a backhanded comment. It’s their own misery lashing out – I see that now – the happier you are, the more miserable people will lash out at you. Misery loves company. But the damage was done. I wondered what other limiting beliefs I was still holding on to?
Limiting beliefs put in us as children can be VERY hard to get rid of. So I tried something new that worked really well. I did not try to get rid of them… I ADDED ON TO THEM to make them positive instead of negative. Here they are:
I am strange or weird…. unique and amazing
I do not belong… among people stuck in early stages of social development
No one will listen… if they are not ready. Don’t force them.
I am self-centered… centered securely in my own soul
The way I want to do it will not work… unless I actually do it. So do it.
Nobody listens to women… who do not speak up. So speak up.
I am a silly girl… playful and inquisitive like the purity of childhood
Girls have only one purpose and that is to provide for men’s needs … to help them see the truth
What women want is irrelevant… until they decide otherwise. Decide that what you want is relevant.
If you have some limiting beliefs holding you back and you can’t seem to get rid of them, try completing them instead. Remember to read it often to retrain your brain on the updated version of those beliefs and help it stick.
What limiting beliefs are embedded in you? You may be surprised to find out : )
