Connecting To Your Partner – Understanding and Supporting Their Purpose

The next stop on your journey of connecting to your partner is the third eye chakra, located just above the eyes and nose. The third eye represents higher perception, intuition, purpose and inspiration. Connecting to your partner’s higher perception, intuition, purpose and inspiration includes:

Understanding and supporting their purpose.

We each have a purpose in this life. It is often suggested that we are here to first learn something and then to give back by giving a gift that we brought with us for humanity. We all have natural gifts. Your purpose is to share your gift. Figuring out what that gift is and how to share it exactly, is really quite challenging. It’s not nearly as obvious as you think it should be, until you figure it out. Then it is then most obvious thing in the world. Over time, you and your partner will each find your purpose. Maybe you have several different purposes over your life.

The important thing is to support your partner’s purpose, no matter what it is. If their purpose is to be an amazing chef, that’s pretty easy to support. But what if their purpose is to help people in war zones? What if their purpose takes them away from you sometimes? It has to be OK. Because to hold them back from their purpose is to make them miserable. And a good partner does not want to see their love in misery. Meanwhile, you are discovering your own purpose. And your partner can support you in that as well. Carrying out your purpose fills your soul. When you are together, you will have that much more to give each other.

Here are some fun exercises to help you both find your purpose. My best advice would be to try them all until you find one that works for you and/or you spot a pattern or connection in the results… here they are, reprinted from the book, Purna Asatti:

Free Flow Writing – get a bank piece of paper or pull up a blank note on your phone or computer (whichever will allow you to get ideas down the fastest). Start by asking yourself, “What is my purpose?,” or, “What is my mission in life?” Then, write whatever comes to mind. Just start listing and keep listing until you get to something that makes you tear up. An emotional response is the key to spotting the right answer.

Intersections – write down four separate lists: (1) What you are good at (2) What you enjoy (3) What the world needs and (4) what you can get paid for. Your purpose or mission in life is what lies at the intersection of these four things. Now, I kind of don’t necessarily agree with the idea that you purpose in life is necessarily linked to an income. I suspect that the idea of being able to be paid for it suggests that it has value to society at large and I would focus more on that. If, however, you are doing this exercise because you want a new career and you are not yet financially free, then, yes, I would include the getting paid part.

What Have You Always Done? – In this exercise, you look back from childhood until now and ask yourself what have you always done, when nobody is looking, when you are not getting paid for it, etc. What MUST you do just because you cannot imagine not doing it? What activities are just at the core of your being and always have been?

Skills Assessment – Ask people you trust (and who would tell you honestly) to list the skills that you are really really really good at. Which of your best skills gives you joy? How can you double down on and possibly combine those skills?

The Simon Sinek Method – Call a small number of your closest friends (people that have known you a long time). For each, ask them, “Why are you my friend?”. They may have a hard time and need to think about that to really get to the heart of it. But keep digging and they will eventually have an epiphany about how you make them FEEL or some other thing that you do for their INTERNAL self. This is the value that you bring to humanity. How can you leverage that into a purpose, mission or vocation?

The Tony Robbins Method – Tony Robbins has lots of very insightful methods for everything and this is no exception. It goes like this… When you were very young (3-5 years old), what did you want to be when you grew up? WHY? Then, when you were a teenager, what did you want to be for a career? WHY? Then, when you were in your twenties, what did you want to be for a career? WHY? Thirties?…. keep going until you reach your present day. Then, focus on all the why’s. What is the pattern? Can you combine them into one purpose, mission or vocation?

Sit Down, Shut Up & Listen – In this method, you simply ask for the answer and it is delivered to you. This is also called mediation, prayer or as Jesse Elder puts it, Cosmic Google. It is wonderfully effective, although it takes some practice. Find a quiet place where you can be alone and will be guaranteed to be undisturbed for a period of time… let’s say 15-60 minutes. Put your phone on airplane mode and get all your typical distractions as far away from you as possible. Sit down. Quiet your mind by listening to the silence intently. Ask your question; in this case, “What is my mission?,” or, “What is my purpose?”. Wait patiently for the answer and write it down exactly as you heard it – do not stop to interpret it. And don’t dismiss it. Think about how it fits in with what you got from the other methods.

Let me remind you that your result is not going to look exactly like anything you have seen before, so if it looks like that, you need to be more specific and carry out your mission in a more unique way, by a new method, etc. Get creative and don’t let society’s rules steer you away from your true answer.