Once you have enjoyed the exploration phase, and the various levels of orgasm, your next move is to explore how energy plays into this connection with your partner, and into your experience at large.
Everything in the universe is made up of matter, energy and information. That means that YOU and your partner are made up of matter, energy and information. You spent the first two phases of your sexual practice focused on the matter that is your amazing body and all it can experience. Now, let’s focus on the energy. Within an orgasm is energy moving. The sense of electricity building, the release… this is all energy moving within you. Energy also builds and releases upwards in your partner.
This practice breaks down into three parts: connecting to your own energy, connecting to your partner’s energy, and exchanging energy with your partner.
First, connect to your own energy. Even as you sit quietly by yourself, you can feel energy flowing through and around you. While making love with your partner, focus on the sensations of energy moving within you. This is an exercise for each partner, within themselves, while you are together. As you near a climax, notice how the energy builds in one area, releases and rushes upwards to the crown. Imagine drawing that energy up from the root chakra to the crown with every breath in and see what happens.
When you are familiar with that energy movement, try connecting to your partner’s energy. See if you can feel differences in the energy within Vajra and Yoni when they are connected as one. You may be able to also feel energy moving in your partner when you touch them anywhere on the body. Practice. See if you can feel it. As you practice, you will become more sensitive to it and more aware of it. Feeling your partner’s energetic response can be as exciting as feeling their physical response. Imagine sending energy down from the crown to the root chakra and into your partner, or into your partner with your hands. See what happens. Emotions are just energy moving, so you might even like to imagine that you are sending love, joy and caring to your partner.
Once you feel fairly well versed at sensing and working with your own energy, and sensing and working with your partner’s energy, it’s time to put them together. Try this…
Imagine energy coming down into your head, down your spine, out the root chakra and into the earth. You are a conduit for the energy. This is the energy of connection. This is the energy of all things. This is the energy of life, and love, or your partner and of yourself.
Now reverse the direction. Pull the energy up from the earth, into the root chakra, up the spine and out the crown. Do not impede the flow. Do not keep it for yourself. All the way up and out.
What energy do you feel in the root now?
Now with each breath in, bring the energy up. And with each breath out, bring the energy down. Up. Down. Up. Down. Now breathe together with your partner. You can match their breathing without them having to think about it. As they breathe out, sending energy out of the root, you breathe in, taking that energy into the root and up, out of the crown. Then you breathe out, sending energy down and out as they take that energy in through their root chakra, and up and out the crown. Then they breathe out and send the energy back down through their root, into yours, as you breathe in and pull that energy up. Experience this for a moment.
This is oneness. This is the potential of your sexuality… This also takes practice. So keep at it!
