{"id":834,"date":"2018-05-31T19:35:23","date_gmt":"2018-05-31T19:35:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=project&p=834"},"modified":"2026-08-07T19:16:28","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T23:16:28","slug":"do-specific-challenges-tend-to-appear-in-specific-stage-of-development-yes-and-no","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/do-specific-challenges-tend-to-appear-in-specific-stage-of-development-yes-and-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Do Specific Challenges Tend To Appear In Specific Stages Of Development? Yes and No"},"content":{"rendered":"
Looking through the Master List Of Life Challenges<\/a><\/span>, I wondered if specific challenges tend to appear during specific stages of our development<\/a><\/span>. The answer is not as clearly a yes as I might have hoped.<\/div>\n
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Sometimes YES\u2026<\/div>\n
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In stage FOUR (other people have needs too), we have our first ability to feel guilt, shame and empathy and ultimately a struggle to prioritize our own needs among the needs of others. This can lead to the common issues of:<\/div>\n
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Guilt<\/div>\n
Shame<\/div>\n
Feelings of inadequacy<\/div>\n
Stress<\/div>\n
Comparing yourself to others<\/div>\n
etc.<\/div>\n
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In stage SEVEN, there is a lot of work to be done looking at yourself closely and accepting yourself closely including forgiving yourself and others, etc. Stage seven is where we reject all ideologies and as such it is a time filled with potentially very bad decisions and their consequences. It is also a time filled with harsh realizations of our past mistakes. This stage can tend to see a lot of:<\/div>\n
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Guilt<\/div>\n
Shame<\/div>\n
Anger<\/div>\n
Stress<\/div>\n
Uncertain Future<\/div>\n
What To Do With Your Life (Finding Your Purpose)<\/div>\n
School\/Career Frustration<\/div>\n
Self-Doubt<\/div>\n
Comparing Yourself To Others<\/div>\n
Focusing On Failure<\/div>\n
Focusing on the Past<\/div>\n
Focusing on the Bad Things<\/div>\n
Self-Judgement<\/div>\n
Seeing Your Life\/Options As Limited<\/div>\n
Forgiving<\/div>\n
Feeling Detached From Life<\/div>\n
Loneliness<\/div>\n
Divorce<\/div>\n
Self-Sabotage, and<\/div>\n
Addiction<\/div>\n
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Other stages tend to avoid a lot of the negative issues and being in some of the more pleasant challenges. For example, stages eight through eleven can tend to include challenges such as:<\/div>\n
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Figuring Out How To Follow A Dream<\/div>\n
Learning A New Skill, and<\/div>\n
Making The Right Investments (time, effort, money)<\/div>\n
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But Sometimes NO\u2026<\/div>\n
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There are a number of challenges that can\u00a0appear anytime. They tend to pull you back around the\u00a0cycle into earlier stages. That is, they tend to land you in, for example, stage three (I am my needs) but they are not CAUSED by stage three. For example, injury or disease, divorce and\u00a0many others can find you in any stage but will cause you to spend much more time in earlier stages.<\/div>\n
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The good news is that, with practice, you can recognize that these issues are causing you to spend more time in earlier stages and you can consciously pull yourself into later stages, wherein you can more easily overcome them.<\/div>\n
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So yes and no\u2026 understanding where you are on\u00a0the\u00a0cycle and where you are going, you may be able to see some of these coming, but even if you do not see them coming, you can OVERCOME them.<\/div>\n
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Do Specific Challenges Tend To Appear In Specific Stages Of Development? Yes and No<\/a><\/blockquote>