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I realized that a particular close family member had never said anything nice to me that was not then quickly accompanied by a backhanded comment. It&#8217;s their own misery lashing out &#8211; I see that now &#8211; the happier you are, the more miserable people will lash out at you. Misery loves company. But the damage was done. I wondered what other limiting beliefs I was still holding on to?<\/p>\n<p>Limiting beliefs put in us as children can be VERY hard to get rid of. So I tried something new that worked really well. I did not try to get rid of them\u2026 I ADDED ON TO THEM to make them positive instead of negative. Here they are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I am strange or weird\u2026. unique and amazing<\/li>\n<li>I do not belong\u2026 among people stuck in early stages of social development<\/li>\n<li>No one will listen\u2026 if they are not ready. 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