{"id":486,"date":"2018-03-01T20:49:37","date_gmt":"2018-03-01T20:49:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=project&p=486"},"modified":"2026-08-07T19:37:06","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T23:37:06","slug":"why-nobody-gives-a-rats-ass-about-your-self-discovery","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/why-nobody-gives-a-rats-ass-about-your-self-discovery\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Nobody Gives A Rat’s Ass About Your Self Discovery"},"content":{"rendered":"
Your personal journey of self discovery is a critical life long pursuit. It is one of the most profound efforts you will ever undertake. Periodically, it will occupy your whole being.\u00a0 Ironically, or perhaps in perfect balance…\u00a0nobody cares. The reality is that\u00a0nobody gives a shit about your journey as they are much\u00a0too wrapped up in their own equally profound self discovery and rediscovery.<\/div>\n
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That is great news because it means there is nothing you can really \u201cdiscover\u201d about your temporary little self that will be all that big of a deal to anyone. For those that know you, they probably already saw in you\u00a0what you just figured out. And for those who don\u2019t know you, they just don\u2019t give a rat\u2019s ass. So be who you like, do what you want, be who you want – it doesn\u2019t matter! That\u2019s freedom, little loves!<\/div>\n
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But it gets better\u2026 The journey of self discovery is so\u00a0critical because it is critical to reach the ultimate and most important\u00a0conclusion about yourself – that THERE IS NO SELF.<\/div>\n
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We spend decades labeling ourselves, crafting ourselves, honing self images and self presentations. While certainly a fun amusement, these crafted selves serve as little more than adaptations for navigating our present situation socially, politically and financially and for helping us understand our current place in the world; what we like and don\u2019t like.<\/div>\n
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We peel the onion of our “true selves”; celebrating each layer we find and declaring anew that this layer is our true self\u2026 no, THIS LAYER is my true self. No, wait. THIS ONE!\u00a0Until one day when we reach the vacant center and realize that our true self is no-self. Or more precisely, our true self is THE ONENESS – that oneness that is in all of us; not a separate self.<\/div>\n
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In that moment it strikes us that our \u201cself\u201d as we have been trying to define it for so very long is just a series of temporary manifestations;. fleeting costumes tried on and evolved.<\/div>\n
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If we look around us we will see that everyone else that we have been trying to label and judge and identify is just exactly like us: wholly occupied by peeling away each temporary layer of self to vehemently defend the layer below. Each of us, however, eventually arrives at the reality in our own time; some not until their last day on this Earth, and some much younger.<\/div>\n
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We wake up to a world where we are no longer trapped in the need to define a temporary self for ourselves or anyone else. We are at last free to really look around us, no longer occupied by the futile pursuit of what does not even exist – your\u00a0self and my self. We wake up to freedom to pursue making a difference, or making something beautiful, or making someone happy… or any number of things that bring joy to the oneness inside us and others.<\/div>\n
And that\u2019s why nobody gives a rat\u2019s ass about your self discovery. : )<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A provocative essay arguing that no one truly cares about your self-discovery \u2014 and that this is freeing, because the journey’s real destination is realizing there is no fixed self, only the shared oneness beneath every temporary layer.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":195,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[1886,31],"project_tag":[111,171,89,184,113],"series":[],"class_list":["post-486","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-57challenges","project_category-observations","project_tag-family","project_tag-freedom","project_tag-friends","project_tag-journey","project_tag-self"],"acf":{"recommend_blurb":"For anyone deep in self-discovery who feels unseen or over-attached to defining themselves. A liberating reframe: the crafted self dissolves into oneness, and that is freedom, not loss.","citation_snippet":"Dr. Kathryn Messegee (Kathryn Colleen), \"Why Nobody Gives A Rat's Ass About Your Self Discovery,\" https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/why-nobody-gives-a-rats-ass-about-your-self-discovery\/","topics":["spirit","growth","essays"],"related_book":"","buy_url":""},"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/2017-07-17-143313-13.jpg","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/CCA57320-6DC3-4284-BC27-49E433028503.jpeg","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/on-life-being-human\/id1360368906","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2nq6d35q9nFAFlanaJc2Do","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"stitcher":{"key":"stitcher","url":"","label":"Stitcher","class":"stitcher","icon":"stitcher.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/feed\/podcast\/on-life-being-human","embedCode":"

Why Nobody Gives A Rat’s Ass About Your Self Discovery<\/a><\/blockquote>