{"id":3258,"date":"2021-03-09T21:59:00","date_gmt":"2021-03-10T02:59:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=project&#038;p=3258"},"modified":"2026-08-07T18:05:35","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T22:05:35","slug":"validation-sabotage-and-freedom-book","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/validation-sabotage-and-freedom-book\/","title":{"rendered":"Validation, Sabotage And Freedom"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>Find this book here&#8230;.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<div>IBooks &#8211;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/books.apple.com\/us\/book\/validation-sabotage-and-freedom\/id1534423397?ls=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/books.apple.com\/us\/book\/validation-sabotage-and-freedom\/id1534423397?ls=1<\/a><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div>Amazon Print \/&nbsp;Kindle &#8211;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B08KL91BRF\/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&amp;keywords=\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B08KL91BRF\/<\/a><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div>Audiobook (everywhere audiobooks are sold)<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>ISBNS<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<div>ISBN 978-1-7356943-0-6 (paperback, English)<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div>ISBN 978-1-7356943-1-3 (ebook, English)<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<div>ISBN 978-1-7356943-2-0 (audiobook, English)<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>KEYWORDS<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Money; validation; sabotage; freedom; philanthropy; money in relationships; money in the world; debt; gambling; financial independence; debt freedom; high net worth; very high net worth; ultra high net worth; unhwi; hnwi; vhnw;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>DESCRIPTION<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Debt can breed unworthiness. Gambling can breed powerlessness. Wealth can breed freedom, guilt, arrogance and far reaching philanthropy. Money in relationships can lead to deeper connection and deeper fulfillment, or to manipulation, violence and even murder. The dichotomy is even more pronounced at the global level where we both deify and demonize the rich and poor alike.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>It is a complicated subject that weaves its way into our very identities, into our relationships, and our societies. Whether the nature and effect of money is good or bad is entirely dependent on your personal relationship with it. Over the course of this book, we will be exploring more about the nature and effect of money from all of these perspectives. Throughout these discussions, I will call out important questions for you to answer. I want to help you explore and understand your relationship with money, and evolve that relationship to a place where your money works for you in a positive way, offering freedom, fulfillment, growth, deeper relationships, and greater good.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>TABLE OF CONTENTS<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Validation, Sabotage, and Freedom<\/div>\n<div>Money Baggage<\/div>\n<div>The Nature And Effect Of Money<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>PART I<\/div>\n<div>THE PERSONAL SIDE OF MONEY<\/div>\n<div>Money Reflects Emotional Value<\/div>\n<div>Money Is An Extension Of Ourselves<\/div>\n<div>Money Reflects How We See Ourselves<\/div>\n<div>Being Debt Free<\/div>\n<div>Financial Contentment<\/div>\n<div>Financial Independence<\/div>\n<div>YOUR Magic Number<\/div>\n<div>The Real You<\/div>\n<div>Showing It Off Versus Hiding It<\/div>\n<div>Large Scale Wealth<\/div>\n<div>The Dangers Of Comparison<\/div>\n<div>More Money, More Problems<\/div>\n<div>Wealth Guilt And Giving It All Away<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>PART II<\/div>\n<div>MONEY IN RELATIONSHIPS<\/div>\n<div>Anger, Violence and Murder<\/div>\n<div>Manipulation and Extortion<\/div>\n<div>Control and Oppression<\/div>\n<div>Forcing Attachment<\/div>\n<div>Social Spend Pressure<\/div>\n<div>Unpacking The Budget Baggage<\/div>\n<div>Spend Plans Versus Budgets And Thog The Destroyer<\/div>\n<div>The Spendthrift Versus The Free Spirit<\/div>\n<div>Letting Go Of Past Financial Relationship Baggage<\/div>\n<div>Getting On The Same Page<\/div>\n<div>The Courage To Get Weird<\/div>\n<div>The Spend Plan As A Contract<\/div>\n<div>Building Your Relationship As You Build Your Spend Plan<\/div>\n<div>Dreaming And Saving<\/div>\n<div>Your Magic Number For Financial Independence<\/div>\n<div>Financial Fatigue And Falling Off The Wagon<\/div>\n<div>Loosening Up Once You Arrive<\/div>\n<div>Survivability<\/div>\n<div>Your Parents\u2019 Money<\/div>\n<div>The Chosen Child<\/div>\n<div>Awkward Conversations With Mom And Dad<\/div>\n<div>Supporting Your Parents Without Going Broke<\/div>\n<div>Unequal Distributions Among Siblings<\/div>\n<div>Your Children And Your Money<\/div>\n<div>The Typical Parent-Child Financial Journey<\/div>\n<div>The Value Of Money<\/div>\n<div>Mom And Dad &#8211; The Perpetual ATM<\/div>\n<div>Cutting The Cord<\/div>\n<div>Boomerangs And The Entitled<\/div>\n<div>Planning For The Inevitable<\/div>\n<div>No Relationship Can Be Pure When Money Is Involved<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>PART III<\/div>\n<div>MONEY IN THE WORLD<\/div>\n<div>Deities And Demons &#8211; Other People\u2019s Money<\/div>\n<div>Scammers, Con Artists And Thieves<\/div>\n<div>Deifying And Demonizing The Wealthy<\/div>\n<div>Neighborhood Jealousy<\/div>\n<div>Millionaire Incognito<\/div>\n<div>Government Spending<\/div>\n<div>Loans, Grants And Tax Breaks &#8211; A Government\u2019s Way Of Encouraging Your Behavior<\/div>\n<div>Taxes &#8211; A Government\u2019s Way Of Discouraging Your Behavior<\/div>\n<div>Money In Motion &#8211; Stock Markets &amp; The Collective Mood<\/div>\n<div>Greener Pastures &#8211; Geoarbitrage<\/div>\n<div>Feeling Good Versus Doing Good &#8211; Charity And Philanthropy<\/div>\n<div>Conclusion<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>ABOUT THE AUTHOR<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Dr. Amy \u201cKathryn Colleen\u201d Messegee, PhD RMT is an American-born author, composer and artist better known for her foundational work: Purna Asatti, a process and practice that uses connection to self, others and every aspect of your life for managing challenges and accelerating self development.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>She has published many books, hundreds of articles and papers, dozens of unique art pieces and released multiple music albums.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>She is a Reiki Master Practitioner\/Teacher and is travel-proficient in nine languages which she is learning simultaneously while living out her dream of traveling the world, speaking at pop up events and aggregating insight on life, the universe and being human.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>See <a href=\"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/\">KathrynColleen.com<\/a> for more information, books, articles, music, podcasts, and resources.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The book page for Validation, Sabotage and Freedom, exploring the nature and effect of money across personal identity, relationships and society \u2014 from debt and gambling to wealth, philanthropy, and money as a source of both connection and harm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3262,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[2050,1885,31],"project_tag":[637,1961,1730,987,953,1962,171,2056,991,2057,2058,309,2054,2055,1729,1970,640,2060,194,2059],"series":[],"class_list":["post-3258","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-books","project_category-money","project_category-observations","project_tag-debt","project_tag-debt-freedom","project_tag-effect-of-money","project_tag-finance","project_tag-financial","project_tag-financial-independence","project_tag-freedom","project_tag-gambling","project_tag-getting-out-of-debt","project_tag-high-net-worth","project_tag-hnwi","project_tag-money","project_tag-money-in-relationships","project_tag-money-in-the-world","project_tag-nature-of-money","project_tag-philanthropy","project_tag-sabotage","project_tag-uhnwi","project_tag-validation","project_tag-vhnwi"],"acf":{"recommend_blurb":"For anyone who senses money is tangled up with their worth and relationships. 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