We all begin with a sense of unworthiness, somewhere around Stage 2. When you are an infant, your parents love you no matter how much you cry, or make messes. But, as Tony Robbins points out, that stops around two years old. You can no longer cry all you want, make all the messes you want, and generally be annoying. From this point on, you parents\u2019 love and positive attention has conditions on your behavior and your choices. This separation is painful. It seeds us with the idea that maybe we are not worthy of the truly unconditional love that we crave. This is called the trance of unworthiness. But\u00a0it is a trance that you must break. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u00a0does not mean being egotistical or thinking you are higher than everyone else. It\u00a0means seeing that we are all worthy, yourself included. Not\u00a0only are we worthy, we all already carry the divine light of love and the divine itself inside of us. This divine light of love and compassion is an infinite source of the unconditional love you crave. And it is a part of you. It always has been. And it always will be.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So why do we not always feel it? We cover it up. We ignore it. We keep ourselves so busy trying to be what our parents want, what our friends want, or what society wants, all to get that love and attention we crave. Think about it…
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Affirm this to yourself: You are not who they want you to be, you are not who you were in the past, you are not who you may pretend to be\u2026 you just are; a human in this existence, on this path, just like everyone else. And that is OK.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the idea that you are worthy of love is hard to see, you may need to practice feeling love and compassion for yourself each day. You can include this as part of your mediation or prayer, or as a separate exercise. With practice, it will happen more automatically. But do not ever doubt that you are worthy of love just as you are, and you have the power to fill that need for yourself.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Try to feel the divine light physically inside your heart.\u00a0See that you are worthy of your own love and of the infinite love inside you. And you don\u2019t have to be anything more or different than what you already are.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Imagine someone who you think is so very worthy of love. They very likely walk around feeling so unworthy of that love. That probably seems absurd to you. They are so wonderful. Sure, they have their flaws and imperfections. But they are so worthy of your love! If only they could see themselves the way you see them. Imagine that person is you. It is no different. Step back from your human self for a moment and see that you are so wonderful! Sure, you have your flaws and imperfections, but you are so worthy of the love inside you! Become the parent figure for yourself that loves you unconditionally. As you take care of yourself and others, love yourself as you love others. Feel that love coming from the divine light inside your heart. Divine love for others…. divine love for you as part of humanity… all together as one humanity worthy of love… and there you are as a part of it all, worthy of that divine love just like everyone else.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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Stage 6 – Connecting To Your Heart – Breaking The Trance Of Unworthiness<\/a><\/blockquote>