{"id":1230,"date":"2018-12-20T14:56:41","date_gmt":"2018-12-20T14:56:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=project&#038;p=1230"},"modified":"2026-08-07T18:44:00","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T22:44:00","slug":"stage-4-connecting-to-yourself-and-others-attending-to-needs-as-part-of-a-regular-routine","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/stage-4-connecting-to-yourself-and-others-attending-to-needs-as-part-of-a-regular-routine\/","title":{"rendered":"Stage 4 &#8211; Connecting To Yourself And Others &#8211; Attending To Needs As Part Of A Regular Routine"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now that you can imagine the needs of others, it is time to make helping others a part of your regular routine. This could be as simple as regular coffee dates with your friends where you take stock of what they need emotionally and support them in that way. It could be volunteering regularly at your favorite charity. It could be something completely new. If there is a particular group of people (veterans, homeless, children, etc) that you feel drawn to help, think about unique ways that you can help, that may not be covered by anyone else. The key is to make and maintain a regular routine of caring for the needs of others in a way that takes advantage of your unique perspective and gifts. Be careful not to fall into the trap of just giving money. Give your time, effort and creativity. Be there in person with the people you are helping if possible. Connect to them in that space.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">While attending to the needs of others is important, attending to your own needs is more important. Creating a routine for attending to your needs is a great way to make sure you do not neglect them. As humans, we have so many needs: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual, etc. It can seem overwhelming. Routines make it simple and easy to ensure that your needs are being met.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>From previous effort, you should have a list of your needs in order of the following categories\u2026 something like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Physical Needs &#8211; sleep, regeneration, exercise, sex, nutrition, hygiene<\/li><li>Mental\/Emotional Needs &#8211; intellectual activities, relationships, time alone<\/li><li>Spiritual Needs &#8211; prayer\/meditation, study, rituals, services, retreats, etc<\/li><li>Medical Needs &#8211; services, doctor visits, etc<\/li><li>Professional or Purpose-Driven Needs &#8211; training, knowledge, action\u00a0<\/li><li>What Else? &#8211; Your unique life may have other needs. Do you need to feel like a good parent? Do you need to feel validated for something?\u00a0<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>Now map these needs into real action on your daily or weekly calendar. Calendar in time to sleep, regenerative activities, time for exercise, eating well, hygiene and even sex. Schedule time for relationships, prayer\/meditation, and everything else. You may find that there are optimal times of day for specific tasks. For example, if you are a morning person, you might find that language learning followed by mediation and then exercise makes a nice routine. The optimal routine is different for everyone. Experiment to find your best fit. Then, schedule it and hold it sacred.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>The reality is that if you do not make your needs a priority, nobody else will, and you will become unable to help anyone else. Begin a martyr is not good for you and ultimately makes you unable to pursue your purpose. 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