{"id":1179,"date":"2018-12-07T20:05:59","date_gmt":"2018-12-07T20:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=project&p=1179"},"modified":"2026-08-07T18:54:17","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T22:54:17","slug":"stage-2-connecting-to-your-needs","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/stage-2-connecting-to-your-needs\/","title":{"rendered":"Stage 2 – Connecting To Your Needs"},"content":{"rendered":"
We all have needs. The problem comes when we tend to ignore our needs, or worse, not even know what they are. When moving between phases of your life, your needs will evolve. It is useful to take some time to consider what they are and list them out. Consider each of the following categories and make some more of your own\u2026.<\/div>\n
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Physical Needs – How much sleep do you need? How much down time just relaxing? What kind of exercise to you need? What are your sexual needs? (we will get to that more later as well). What kind of nutrition do you need? What kind of self-care routine is optimal?<\/div>\n
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Mental\/Emotional Needs – Do you need to feed your mind? What kind of intellectual activities do you need? Do you need close relationships? What kind and how much contact? Do you need time alone? How much?<\/div>\n
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Spiritual Needs – Do you need time to attend to your faith? Time to attend a service of some kind? Or just time to study your favorite text? Are there pilgrimages or retreats that you feel called to take?<\/div>\n
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Medical Needs – What issues in your body and mind to you need to attend to from a medical perspective? How can you take care of these issues?<\/div>\n
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Professional or Purpose-Driven Needs – What professional training do you need? What time do you need to pursue your purpose? What would you do with that time? What equipment, or skills or knowledge do you need?<\/div>\n
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What Else? – Your unique life may have other needs. Do you need to feel like a good parent? Do you need to feel validated for something?<\/div>\n
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The important thing is to be truly honest about what you need. Do not feel ashamed of what you need. If you feel badly about a need or you find that you need something unhealthy, explore that. Why do you feel that way? If you find that you have needs that are unhealthy, ask yourself WHY you need that. What does it do for you? How does it make you feel? You are being rewarded in some way for filling that supposed need. Ask if there are other ways that you can get the same feeling or the same result in a healthier way.<\/div>\n
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Lastly, remember that needs change. As you evolve and your life evolves, your needs evolve too. Update your list of needs as you learn about yourself and grow. Keep this list near so that you can refer to it and periodically check in with it to make sure you are attending to your needs regularly.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A Stage Two exercise in identifying and honoring personal needs across physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, medical, and purpose-driven categories, with guidance on examining unhealthy needs and revising the list as life and self evolve.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1180,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[1886,1883,31],"project_tag":[915,140,654,180,280,912,282,914,913,281,153,70,606,57,655,86,112,113,197,285,284,283,165,108,87,194,911],"series":[],"class_list":["post-1179","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-57challenges","project_category-couples","project_category-observations","project_tag-affirmation","project_tag-change","project_tag-complete-connection","project_tag-connection","project_tag-cycle","project_tag-desires","project_tag-development","project_tag-dreams","project_tag-hopes","project_tag-human","project_tag-life","project_tag-love","project_tag-needs","project_tag-perspective","project_tag-purna-asatti","project_tag-purpose","project_tag-relationships","project_tag-self","project_tag-self-discovery","project_tag-self-growth","project_tag-self-development","project_tag-stages","project_tag-time","project_tag-transparency","project_tag-truth","project_tag-validation","project_tag-wants"],"acf":{"recommend_blurb":"For anyone doing the inner work of self-connection who keeps overriding their own needs. A practical prompt to name honestly what you actually require and check in regularly. Readers following the stages journey will find it deepens the Purna Asatti roadmap.","citation_snippet":"Dr. Kathryn Messegee (Kathryn Colleen), \"Stage 2 - Connecting To Your Needs,\" https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/stage-2-connecting-to-your-needs\/","topics":["growth","health"],"related_book":"Purna Asatti","buy_url":"https:\/\/shop.lightningsource.com\/b\/085?6FKQMBFf2pXrcib6QjuQWox9UhpMDSQXoo1kemVL5vh"},"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Neon-need-desire-dream.png","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/CCA57320-6DC3-4284-BC27-49E433028503.jpeg","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/on-life-being-human\/id1360368906","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2nq6d35q9nFAFlanaJc2Do","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"stitcher":{"key":"stitcher","url":"","label":"Stitcher","class":"stitcher","icon":"stitcher.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/feed\/podcast\/on-life-being-human","embedCode":"

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