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Experiences are one of the first things we must learn to separate from ourselves. We inherently know that we should not identify with the bad (or good) things that happen to us. But that is really hard to put into practice. Suppose, for example, that you had been robbed while walking down the street. You may take on a sense of fear that stays with you for your whole life. If you have experienced an assault, you might hold on to a sense of unworthiness or sense that you are a victim. These bits of identity weigh us down and stop us from moving forward. Good experiences can be equally stifling if you keep revisiting them over and over. Suppose that in High School you were a great athlete and won a major title. You might hold on to a notion of high school star that can prevent you from ever doing anything great in your adult life. Are you holding on to a bit of the past?<\/div>\n
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For each major experience in your life, write down what it taught you. What beliefs did it give you about yourself, humanity, or the world? Do you still think those beliefs are correct? What should you carry forward from those experiences?<\/div>\n
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Those experiences, good and bad, teach you something about yourself, humanity or the world. It is worth examining them for what they have taught you, affirming that they are not you, and then moving on. If you find that you are revisiting the same event over and over, consider getting some help to let it go. Therapy, Reiki, massage, journaling, prayer with a trusted spiritual advisor and other techniques may help you bring it to the surface and let it go. Meanwhile, pack your life with new and exciting events so that you have something else to fill your thoughts.<\/div>\n
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Don\u2019t waste time on the past, except to see how far you have come, what you have learned and to be thankful for that. As new experiences enter your life, thank them for what they have taught you, enjoy recalling them from time to time but let them go too.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A Stage Two teaching on separating identity from life experiences, good and bad, by examining what each event taught you, affirming that you are not your experiences, and consciously letting them go so you can move forward.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1077,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","episode_type":"audio","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[1886,31],"project_tag":[293,53,654,180,280,282,311,111,89,281,162,153,57,80,655,113,197,285,284,283,87],"series":[],"class_list":["post-1177","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-57challenges","project_category-observations","project_tag-beliefs","project_tag-choosing","project_tag-complete-connection","project_tag-connection","project_tag-cycle","project_tag-development","project_tag-emotions","project_tag-family","project_tag-friends","project_tag-human","project_tag-letting-go","project_tag-life","project_tag-perspective","project_tag-presence","project_tag-purna-asatti","project_tag-self","project_tag-self-discovery","project_tag-self-growth","project_tag-self-development","project_tag-stages","project_tag-truth"],"acf":{"recommend_blurb":"Helpful for readers stuck replaying past events, triumphs or traumas, that have quietly become part of their identity. A gentle method for extracting the lesson and releasing the weight. Part of the self-connection work explored in Purna Asatti.","citation_snippet":"Dr. Kathryn Messegee (Kathryn Colleen), \"Stage 2 - Connecting To Experiences,\" https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/project\/stage-2-connecting-to-experiences\/","topics":["growth","mind"],"related_book":"Purna Asatti","buy_url":"https:\/\/shop.lightningsource.com\/b\/085?6FKQMBFf2pXrcib6QjuQWox9UhpMDSQXoo1kemVL5vh"},"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Hourglass.png","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/CCA57320-6DC3-4284-BC27-49E433028503.jpeg","download_link":"","player_link":"","audio_player":false,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"dark","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/on-life-being-human\/id1360368906","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/2nq6d35q9nFAFlanaJc2Do","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"stitcher":{"key":"stitcher","url":"","label":"Stitcher","class":"stitcher","icon":"stitcher.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/feed\/podcast\/on-life-being-human","embedCode":"

Stage 2 – Connecting To Experiences<\/a><\/blockquote>