{"id":4234,"date":"2021-08-21T11:48:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-21T15:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?p=4234"},"modified":"2026-08-07T16:50:21","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T20:50:21","slug":"it-is-ok-to-want-a-simple-life-put-your-ego-on-a-shelf-coaches","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/it-is-ok-to-want-a-simple-life-put-your-ego-on-a-shelf-coaches\/","title":{"rendered":"It Is Ok To Want A Simple Life – Put Your Ego On A Shelf, Coaches"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are a ton of life coaches out there these days. It\u2019s great to see the industry growing because that means more and more people are taking the journey and they will have great resources to support them. But I noticed something lately that I have to hit pause on: the pressure for an epic life. Social media is all about extremes and that is driving coaches to insist that if you are not living an \u201cepic\u201d life, you are a slacker. Loud, pumped up, in your face posts make you think that if you aren\u2019t all the things then you have failed. Allow me to be the voice of reason. Success is about creating the life YOU want, not the life someone else (even your coach) tells you to want. I have worked with students who want nothing more than to soak in the joy of the simple life of love and home that they have already created. To find fulfillment in what you already have is a powerful state of being. That being said, if you want epic, create epic. If you want simple, create simple. If you want something completely new, do that. This pressure that every person should want a specific type of life is no better than the same pressure for conformity that society feeds us from day one. Your life is YOURS. Although the framework of stages that you will traverse to find your truth are the same as everyone else, the lessons you are here to learn and the gifts you are here to give are unique to your life experience. There is no one size fits all. You must define for yourself what you want your life to look like, to feel like, etc. It might be simple. It might be quiet, or contemplative, or loud or free or complicated or anything that serves YOU, not what serves your coach\u2019s ego. You see, the coaches who have crafted epic lives for themselves are excited to share that and show you that you can really have any life you want. But the ego\u2019s need to validate its own choices makes them foist their lifestyle on their students as an expectation. Because if you choose the same lifestyle, THEY feel validated. But to serve is to put self aside to be an instrument of source. May all of us who serve the journey of others see our own humanity, our own legitimate need for validation, and put it on the shelf so that we may serve purely. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A teaching essay pushing back on coaching culture’s pressure to live an ‘epic’ life, arguing that success means creating the life you personally want\u2014simple or grand\u2014and urging coaches to set ego aside and serve each student’s own path.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3911,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","itunes_episode_number":"","itunes_title":"","itunes_season_number":"","itunes_episode_type":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[44,1419,864,540,1625,1926,1781,357,1005,1003,1481,944,934,1454,1460,1002,43,1929,1927,865,371,879,354,1006,355,1004,372,358,1589,1928],"class_list":["post-4234","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-diary","tag-art","tag-business","tag-complete-connection","tag-connection","tag-consciousness","tag-consciousness-mastery","tag-couples","tag-cycle","tag-cycle-of-human-development","tag-finding-peace","tag-global-peace","tag-human-development","tag-kathryn-colleen","tag-lasting-peace","tag-lastingpeace-org","tag-life-optimization","tag-music","tag-personal","tag-podcasts","tag-purna-asatti","tag-religion","tag-roadmap","tag-seeing-yourself","tag-self-mastery","tag-self-development","tag-self-improvement","tag-spirituality","tag-stages","tag-understanding-people","tag-writing"],"acf":{"recommend_blurb":"For coaches and anyone feeling pressured to chase a bigger, louder life, this offers reassurance that a simple, self-defined life is valid. A grounding read on serving others without ego.","citation_snippet":"Dr. Kathryn Messegee (Kathryn Colleen), \"It Is Ok To Want A Simple Life - Put Your Ego On A Shelf, Coaches,\" https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/it-is-ok-to-want-a-simple-life-put-your-ego-on-a-shelf-coaches\/","topics":["growth","business"],"related_book":"","buy_url":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4234","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4234"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4234\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7433,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4234\/revisions\/7433"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3911"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4234"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4234"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4234"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}