{"id":6920,"date":"2024-05-24T15:04:39","date_gmt":"2024-05-24T19:04:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/?post_type=podcast&#038;p=6920"},"modified":"2026-08-07T19:51:40","modified_gmt":"2026-08-07T23:51:40","slug":"ep-317-why-you-cannot-control-others-and-what-to-do-instead","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/podcast\/ep-317-why-you-cannot-control-others-and-what-to-do-instead\/","title":{"rendered":"Ep 317 &#8211; Why You Cannot Control Others And What To Do Instead"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>Visit the online ashram at\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/lets-get-to-work\/\">http:\/\/kathryncolleen.com\/studio\/<\/a>. 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